Welcome to our weekly BlogAnon meeting where we confess a particular blogging sin and turn to you for support, suggestions and that blogging bond so we know we're not all alone. Don't be shy. Read along and let us know if you identify with us this week.
Well I swear! No really. I swear. A lot. The "F-word" is my favorite adjective. At work, at home and at play. Bet you didn't know that about me. Well, maybe you do if I've exchanged a colorful e-mail conversation with you. And you probably know that at least I'm not offended by it based on some of my movie selections during the Monday Movie Meme. But you won't find it used here.
I'm not trying to be someone different here in the blogosphere. I would find it dishonest and stressful to keep up another persona all the time. What you read here are my real thoughts (and occasionally Andy's too) and our real discoveries in our real world. Minus the F-bombs. I just think it looks forced or fake or crude when I read cursing in print. Even when it isn't. I don't know why it seems that way to me. It just does. If I were to tell you face to face about my fantasy baseball team's piss poor performance today it would go a little something like this:
"F*CK! I can't believe both of my pitchers sucked so bad tonight. F*uckers. What the f*ck does a Bumble have to do to get a f*cking win around here?! This blows. F*ck f*ck f*ck!"
I seriously had a fairly close approximation to that quote when I turned on my laptop to see how the 'ole team was doing. And when the words flowed from my mouth, they had a nice rhythm, a nice flow. Lots of expressive quality and panache. But when I read the transcription - it looks so.....tawdry. Sensationalized. Like I'm using those words to sound cool or grab attention. Screw that. I use those words because it just comes naturally and feels lively and right. Text based communication loses that in translation.
Another reason I don't swear in print is that I never know who is stopping by. Again, I'm not trying to put up a polite front or something. I just don't want to run people off when otherwise we would have lots to share. I do have a filter. It kicks in when I'm at work away from the confines of my cubicle or if I am hanging out socially with kiddos and respected elders. I don't meet someone for the first time, shake their hand and say "How the f*ck are ya?" So when every day a new visitor might come along here, I want them to meet me in a more filtered manner as well.
The last reason I keep the F-word to myself within posts is that I might want to refer future business opportunities to this blog as examples of who I am, what I have to say and how I say it. Or someone might find this blog in doing their own research into my employment potential and I wouldn't want to lose out on a pay day because I sounded like a sailor and some other beyotch came out squeaky clean.
So basically, it doesn't look right to me, it might deter others from hangin' out and it might keep me from being hired. I don't begrudge others who say f*ck it and express themselves in text the way they do verbally. I will admit that for me it will always look like they are trying too hard to be cool, even when I know that isn't the case. And therefore I usually end up staying away. In my opinion, it is a hell of a lot harder to tell a tale in this modern world without using the most versatile word in our language than it is to just drop that mo-fo in there wherever warranted. So I opt for the more challenging path. And if you disagree, go f*ck yourself.
Do you swear more or less on your blog than you do in person? Do you think negatively about blogs that curse? Or do you enjoy those that take off the filter completely? Are you concerned about how your online presence reflects on you in the eyes of others? Or you do you just say "f*ck it - it's a personal blog?"