Welcome to our weekly BlogAnon meeting where we confess a particular blogging sin and turn to you for support, suggestions and that blogging bond so we know we're not all alone. Don't be shy. Read along and let us know if you identify with us this week.
Ever pull up your feed reader and scroll through your daily folder (you DO have daily folders now, don't you?) and wonder why the hell you are even following some of those blogs? It happens. We've all been dumped before. And we've all abandoned blogs ourselves. My question is, what drives you to dump that blog?
I say dump the blog, and not dump the blogger, because that personalizes things too much. When I'm in a purge mode, I dehumanize the process in order to leave sentimentality out of it. Do I care about this blog and the posts it displays? No. Do I care about the blogger creating it all? Yes. I don't like turning my back on people. But the beauty of the blogosphere is that I can move on from the nicest people in the world if they just aren't doin' it for me anymore. I don't have that backbone in the real world. Sometimes I need to remind myself that the blogosphere is not transparent. That blogger is not going to have their entire world come crumbling down if I dump them from my reader.
Which leads me to another point. Would that blogger even notice if I went away? They probably wouldn't even realize I'd been gone unless I popped in after a long gap. I highly doubt they sit there wondering why The Bumbles haven't been by lately. And if they do, I'm sure they get over it when some other new blogger comes to visit, bringing a lot more to the table than I do, having gotten bored with their content.
Many times I dump a blog because the content of their posts doesn't match the level of my interest anymore. When I first encountered them, I was all over all things LOST. But now that LOST is no longer, we just don't have anything in common anymore. Their life beyond LOST consists of tips on finding discounts on make-up and endless reviews of hair metal cover bands - not exactly Red Sox and reading there. So although I thought Ms. Lostie was super fun to talk to about the hotness level of Sawyer and theories behind the source of the whispers, she and I have nothing in common without it. Like those parents who experience profound empty nest syndrome upon realizing they no longer have anything in common with their spouse other than the children who have now finally all moved out.
Sometimes though I dump a blogger, in spite of their blog. This is when I can't avoid letting things get personal. If I invest time visiting this blogger, reading their posts which are of great interest to me and leaving comments that added to the conversation then I expect to be acknowledged. If I am engaging in a one way discourse then I become quite irritated. I don't expect every comment that I leave in the blogosphere to result in a corresponding comment, e-mail or shout-out. I am talking about recurring visits to the same blog without any response. Maybe it means they don't enjoy my company and I can't take the hint. Maybe they just don't believe in responses - which is a pretty rude way to live in the blogosphere if you ask me. But - since they didn't ask me, or even respond to me - ever - they get dumped.
So - in either case, I'm dumping a blog or a blogger because of them, not me. It isn't that I don't have the time or the motivation. It's that they just aren't worth my time and don't make me motivated to join them in the blogosphere anymore. And I can make a clean getaway.
What reasons do you have for dumping a blog or blogger that you follow? How long do you stick it out before moving on? Do you feel blogger guilt when you ditch or embrace the freedom to find better blogs for you?