Welcome to our weekly BlogAnon meeting where we confess a particular blogging sin and turn to you for support, suggestions and that blogging bond so we know we're not all alone. Don't be shy. Read along and let us know if you identify with us this week.
I know quite a few people who are happiest when they are most miserable. I don't enjoy this environment and thus avoid prolonged interludes with them as much as possible. Debbie Downer irritating. So when I come across a blogger who does nothing but complain, I move away as fast as possible.
Look. We all vent. For some, their blog is the only outlet they have for the stress, fear, problems and annoyances in their life. Which honestly makes me think that if they did less venting, they'd probably have real people in their lives that they could vent to instead of spewing it throughout the blogosphere. If that makes sense. There is a difference between venting and being a miserable person to be around. It is a direct correlation to the frequency of your complaints.
If you are having a bad day and that psycho stranger in the car next to you cut you off one too many times, that's a ventable offense. But if you vent about the bad driver, the stupid store clerk, the hold time on the phone, the government, the in-laws, your kids' teachers, the dog's bladder, your dead grass, the burnt pizza, your boss, the crappy movie ending, the shrunken laundry, the malfunctioning DVR, the smelly dude on the treadmill and your weight - I want nothing more than to show you photos of ruined families in Japan or Haiti, impoverished children in the Middle East or homeless people on our back doorsteps.
Problems should be occasional. And venting about them can be liberating and many times humorous in their release. Seeing everything as a problem is self-centered and complaining about everything all the time is obnoxious. Because everyone has problems. And we should take turns listening to them.
And yes, I did just spend an entire post complaining about complainers. Your turn to complain about me.
Do you find continuous complainers to be tiring? Do you leave supportive comments on their posts? Are they ever there for you and your complaints?