Welcome to our weekly BlogAnon meeting where we confess a particular blogging sin and turn to you for support, suggestions and that blogging bond so we know we're not all alone. Don't be shy. Read along and let us know if you identify with us this week.
A few weeks ago, in our confessional about long-windedness, new blogger Desiree of Driftwood Ramblings left a comment wondering why some people force rules on you. That she had been "informed" without solicitation about what she should or shouldn't be doing to make her blog a hit. She wondered who exactly these blog police were and where they got the nerve.
I don't know, Desiree. I truly don't. For there aren't rules. There are pet peeves. There are things that work better than others for some people. But there is no Right or Wrong way to blog. First of all, that is because the reasons you blog versus the reasons another person blogs are likely vastly different. Knowing WHY you blog pretty much sets the approach of how you blog.
Second of all, what works for me might not work for you. We all have different personalities. Advance post plotting might be great for someone with a leaning towards order and planning. This would be far too restrictive for the mind that thrives on spontaneity.
I love to learn and to share. That's why I create Blog Tip posts on alternating Fridays. But I don't go around telling people they should do everything I know how to do. I just put the information out there in case someone else is interested or in need. You can't force things on people. Especially people like me. I instantly become defensive when someone tells me I NEED to do it THIS way. They might as well call me a big dummy. Doesn't go over too well.
If you are new to blogging, or haven't given your blog a real look in a while, I always recommend having a relative stranger (in or outside of the blogospere) take a look at your site and provide their reactions to what they find. Not criticism. Just one blogger's personal opinion. It can reinforce some things you've thought were good and can also point out some things from a different point of view. Good information to have and do with what you want - or don't want - to do.
That's the kind of exercise that is helpful to a blogger. Not a guide. Just guidance. When asked for. Don't be the blog police. Just be a blogger.
Have you ever received unwanted blogging advice? How did you respond? When you want advice, are you comfortable in asking?